The Black Chair

Tenzin Pema    29 May 2018    3221

Hello to all families, I sincerely apologize for not updating my blog for quite a while. We have been working very hard to match all of our families with their perfect nanny. You might be wondering what a “Black Chair” is. When I first said it out loud, I admit it sounded slightly eerie. However, in this context, It is synonymous with the “time-out” system When I was taking care of my son when he was around 4 years old, he started to become more naughty which is normal considering that he is at an age where he can articulate his thoughts and his speech. This is the time when most children are at a very fragile state and they tend to easily absorb their surroundings and become influenced by whatever they see and hear. His Holiness has refereed to children as “raw clay” and it is up to the caretaker to mold them into a compassionate and loving person.      

So back to the “Black Chair.” Back when I was growing up, children who usually inconvenienced parents or teachers around them were usually physically punished. It is not uncommon but it isn’t something you can ever get used to. This is also one of the reasons I love America so much. While I think Physical punishment can be effective, it can also easily backfire with ever more negative outcomes. This is where the “Black Chair” comes in. I’ve began to use that when he behaves poorly. If he was being naughty I would give him a time-out where he would have to go sit on the Black Chair. This has been very effective, because not he has become more responsible and thinks more about his actions. Every parent can have their own variation of the “Black Chair” so I strongly encourage all families to try this method.

I hope you all enjoy the long weekend, and I wish you all a very Happy Memorial Day.